Eldest Daughter Syndrome: How to Resign From the Job You Never Applied For
Somewhere around age nine, you got promoted: assistant parent, sibling project manager, keeper of the calendar, reader of moods. Nobody held a meeting. Twenty-some years later you're still the family's unpaid chief of staff, and the performance review never ends.
The psychology under the meme
The internet calls it eldest daughter syndrome; the literature calls it parentification: a child assigned adult responsibilities before she could consent to them. It builds real competence and bills real costs, and both columns deserve honest accounting.
Resign the role, not the family
You can love the people and still quit the position. The workable path is one duty at a time: name it, decide where it actually belongs (a named adult, a shared system, or nowhere), write the script for the old requests, and let the system wobble while other adults learn. The wobble is not your cue; it's the transfer working.
Permission slips count
You are allowed to be proud of how good you got at a job you never should have had. You are also allowed to put it down. Both at once, in fact; that's the whole trick.
The Resignation Letter is the exit paperwork: the job description in writing at last, ten resignation letters, handover notes, and a new role with terms you wrote yourself.